I have been into BDSM for a long time. From childhood up until middle age I was thinking only of submissive, but then I discovered that not only did I enjoy being the dominant it was easier to find a submissive partner than a domme.
So now I am a switch. I have also made the leap from hetero to 'bi curious'. I have experience dominating both men and women. As a dominant I can be strict and severe or gentle and forgiving, suiting the needs of my partner. As a submissive I *need* strict discipline, which may take the form of pain, humiliation or boredom.
I am looking for two different things. I would like to find a submissive partner t play with on an occasional basis. Sorry, no LTR. Intimacy (stroking, fondling, etc.) would be expected, intercourse (oral, anal or vaginal) is not expected and can be negotiated. All limits will be respected. I prefer to play with a safeword.
I am also looking for a dominant who will hold me accountable for my actions and punish me appropriately. Intercourse is not expected. While I enjoy the accoutrements of fetish wear and dungeon equipment they are not essential. My preference for the domme would be a stern woman in a business suit!
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My Ideal Person:
For a submissive, I would like someone who enjoys the pleasure that BDSM can bring. OTK spankings are a favorite of mine, so you would need to at least be able to tolerate that. Being tied spread eagle on a bed while I toyed with you mercilessly is also a favorite of mine. Levels of pain, humiliation and/or degradation are all optional and open for negotiation.
For a Domme, I seek discipline. If I have been naughty (which I frequently am) I want to be punished. Minor infractions should have minor punishment, which may include some aspects that satisfy the 'kinky' desires. If I have done something that is just not acceptable then the punishment should be something that is not fun at all!
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